In today’s society the roles of women have changed drastically compared to 50 years ago. We went from being homemakers to running our own companies, being CEOs and entrepreneurs, and yes we still managed to do it while raising kids, making sure dinners on the table at night and the house is spotless.

I am many things: a writer, employee, motivational speaker, and a mother to list just a few. However, I am also a woman, and although I have managed to master many things there remains one thing that I haven’t quite mastered- love.

I won’t dispute the fact that yes I can be moody, irrational, and emotional but I am also strong, independent, and competitive. I would give the clothes on my back to anyone that needed it and bare the winter cold so they could be warm. Here lies the one fault that I have and that we as women in general have: we put others before ourselves. We make sure the boss is happy, our kids are happy, but what about us? When did we forget about our self worth, and the importance of our happiness? Is it because society has shunned us for being more independent and stepping out of the roles that women had 50 years ago?

Not all women are the same, some will overcompensate, some will cower and some women merely do not care what others have to think or say in relation to their lives. But you see that’s what makes us so special. We are versatile and have adapted to become what is expected of us and more.

I’m very lucky to say that I have had the privilege to meet some spectacular women; I have friends that have become doctors, lawyers, authors, managers, and artists. So with all this intelligence that we have obtained, can someone please explain why it is that we still haven’t mastered a way to avoid heartbreak?

Why is it that our male counterparts who were once considered superior still have the ability to affect us the way that they do? No matter how tough we say we are we still fall in to the trap of expecting too much, giving too much and loving too much.

When we’ve become top mathematicians and scientists why haven’t we come up with a formula to detect whether a relationship is doomed to fail so that we can avoid the unnecessary heartbreak that comes with the untimely end?

I used to think it’s because we expect too much, but how can we not? If we are able to multitask and soar above expectations how can we not expect the same from someone who’s with us?

More and more women I know are opting to go the route of being single parents, raising kids on their own, holding down the household, and for lack of a better word – grinding to ensure that their family has everything they need. So yes we will continue to do it all and we will put on that vest with an “S” on our chest but its important to remember that we still need to be careful because although we may have invented a lot of amazing things, we still haven’t figured out how to shield our feelings- or even worse, our hearts.

xoxo

Elle

p.s. If you haven’t had a chance yet read my poem “Virtuous Woman” in the poetry section!!

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