Ahh love… it is by far one of the most complex topics ever, it has no boundaries, does not differentiate between race, creed or class. We’ve all experienced it at one point of time to another, but thinking about the transition from lust to love really interests me.

Remember when we were young and got that very first note with the words:

Do you like me?

Yes                                                        No                                                Maybe

It was as if suddenly that boy that you once found SO annoying was now the cutest boy in class. His corny jokes suddenly hilarious. I remember my first crush in grade 3, his name was Ryan, he was slightly chubby and he gave me a rabbit for valentines day- which ironically smelt like dog (I later came to find out that this was in fact his dogs toy). We shared our snacks, danced at the school dance for Valentines and the next day it was over. He moved on to liking Kim and I moved on to Bryan. There was no heartbreak, no hurt feelings. Love back then was easy.

Fast forward to high school, this is usually around the time when most have their first serious relationship and encounter… dare I say it- SEX. Did I think I would stay with my high school sweetheart forever? Yes. What girl doesn’t? We fell asleep on the phone at nights, did our homework together, and went to the movies on a Friday night. Not to mention leaving school early on half days and not telling our parents just so we could get that “extra” time together. This is the stage where love really gets a little more complicated. Now there are genuine feelings involved. We went from sharing snacks to sharing our bodies, from having a crush to having “official” titles. This was also when many experience their first real heartbreak. It sucks, and leaves you feeling derailed. Thankfully, at that age you have a plethora of your friends around you to make you feel better, and you eventually find someone else and fall head over heels again…oh to be young again.

Meet adulthood…Its the age of marriage, children, and serious relationships. Damnit. This is the point that separates the girls from the women and the men from the boys. When we become grown women and men, we become comfortable with ourselves. We aren’t afraid to tell others what we want, how we want it and if they don’t like it they can go to hell. Yet, this is one of the most crucial times when it comes to love. It can be depressing if you see everyone around you getting married. It can be complicated if you fall in love and you have children from a previous relationship. It can be scary to give your heart over to someone completely because there’s always that little fear that they might drop it and your heart will smash into a million pieces on the floor.

So with all the risks involved, why is it that millions of people are searching for love everyday? They scour Internet sites, go through blind dates and run to hell and back to search for THE ONE.

The answer to that is simple. When you’re in true love, you lose yourself to that person. You forget where you end and they begin. You stimulate each others mind, body and soul. They make you a better person and vice versa. They accept your flaws and you accept theirs. They offer to be your shoulder when you need one to cry on. They are your best friend. They offer themselves to you completely with the understanding that together you will encourage, guide, motivate and love one another in every way possible, spiritually, mentally, physically and emotionally.

Maybe I’m a sucker for love but that to me is worth the journey…

xoxo

Elle

P.s. I can guarantee that this will be the song I play to my future husband…or maybe I’ve already played it?

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