It’s valentines day.

I’m a history buff and it has always been an alternate passion of mine along with Greek mythology. As a single girl on valentines day a few years back I really got to thinking about the history of the holiday and how it came to be. More importantly if the holiday was really only for lovers as retailers had led us to believe or if in fact the true meaning behind the holiday had been tainted. What I found ultimately led me to appreciate not only the holiday but the history behind the holiday.

So yesterday on my Twitter (follow me here) I posted the following statement: ” when did valentines day become about singles” keep in mind I knew full well that it would only be a matter of time before someone would respond.

My guess was that it would be a bitter, single female with a “f**k love” attitude. Someone who would play hard to the world but yet secretly pain for that prince charming to come and sweep her off her feet. Sure enough it only took a matter of moments for a female fitting that exact description to respond.

Immediately that individual posed the question “when did it become about couples.” The answer is simple. It’s always been about couples or lovers. Any and everyone can search the history on the Internet or better yet head the library (yes they do still exist) and do some good ole fashion research.

I digress. A conversation ensued ultimately leading that female to say that I was ignorant for thinking that I had what no one else had and constantly bragging about it.

Pause.

Alas the real reason behind the anger reared it’s ugly head. Maybe it’s jealousy or maybe she just has too much time on her hands to be always reading my tweets but regardless she has a problem with the fact that I openly celebrate the love that I share with my man.

This got me to thinking and ultimately led me to blog about it because I felt that I needed some feedback. So I pose the question: are we supposed to celebrate love in quiet for the other 364 days a year and only make it known on valentines day? Meanwhile single ladies around the world are throwing their hands up in the club to Beyonces track then heading home to an empty bed with cold sheets. Suddenly that 3:56 of the song doesn’t seem all that empowering because let’s be honest even though Beyonce sang that track she still got to go home to Jay with a ring on her finger.

Finding true love and your soulmate is like going through Hades underworld and then suddenly when you find someone it’s like you’re standing on mount Olympus. As bitter or as cynical as someone may seem on the outside the truth is simple. We all yearn to be loved. We all want that love that Romeo and Juliet shared (minus the death) or for modern times that love that Noah and Allie shared in the notebook.

So why in a society where people have been killed for us to have freedom of speech should I hide my love just so others who are single will not feel bad?
Why as women or even men do we become enraged by that green monster when someone else finds happiness. Rather than support them and be happy we become resentful and attempt to do anything to make them unhappy again. Because let’s not forget misery loves company. Until of course misery finds a man or woman.

So to my fellow happy couples out there let’s make valentines day everyday. Screw those who catch feelings about it. Shout it out you’re in love and you’re proud!

To the singles out there, instead of being cynical, bitter or resentful take some time to love yourself. Stop focusing on others being happy and you will find happiness and eventually love. The worst thing you can do is be miserable. When you are miserable you make yourself unavailable to the positive things life has in store for you.

While many are wishing every and anyone a “Happy Valentines Day” I reserved that for the one I love, the king in my life. And while I may not be able to go to mount Olympus and shout it out ( he gets embarrassed anyway lol)  I will call him and tell him as I do everyday that I love him, and I’m eternally grateful and blessed to have him in my life for 2 years or 2 eternities.

With lots of positivity & love,

Xoxo
Elle

Ps.  There will always be people who will hate you for the love you have the goals you’ve accomplished and the success you have. There will be people who attempt to slander your name and bring you down because of their own self deficiencies and lack of happiness. These are the people you must pray for because they need it more than anyone else.

Pps. When having a discussion with someone who realises they are wrong the child in them comes out. This causes them to use any means necessary to ensure that they are right. Often times it leads to them using unrelated and untruthful facts in a low attempt to gain the upper hand. This is when the following quotes proves truthful “never argue with a fool because from afar the world cannot tell who is who.”

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