Splackavellie: Does every woman need one?
I always said that I wouldn’t define my blog and I think I’ve stayed true to that for the most part but tonight I’m taking it in a different direction.
While having a conversation with one of my girlfriends the other day she let me know that she was seeing someone else. This caught me as a surprise because as far as I know she’s been in a relationship for a while now. She used a term that I hadn’t heard in about ten years – Splackavellie. Do you remember that Pressha song? It was the 90’s version of a F**k buddy.
Check the lyrics:
You know there comes a period in every woman’s life when
she gets frustrated or fed up with her man and all his silly hang-ups
You know a woman wants a man where she don’t have to have no drama
behind it You know jus somebody like to love her down with
no strings attached and his name is “Splackavellie”
Tell me what kind of superman
Would take u in his bedroom baby
and hit u with some front back and side to side
Like hydraulics on a stormy night
And break u off something proper like
Ain’t no need for u to perpetrate
Cause he will accommodate
and u will appreciate the way he flips u up down and round and round
In and out and make u scream and shout
Shortie put your thang down down down
[Bridge]
He ain’t ya boyfriend
He ain’t ya husband
Just somebody u can call when your body needs a fix
He’ll put u in the mix
Den you’ll hear him asking what’s my name say my name
Splackavellie
[Chorus]
Every woman needs here own Splackavellie
A brother she can call when her man ain’t doing her right
He can work it all night
Until the morning light
Make her feel right right right
Every woman needs that one Splackavellie
A brother she can call when her man ain’t doing her right
He can work it all night
Until the morning light
Make her feel right right right
Tell me what kind of superman
Would make u feel good with his mouth
And kiss u from your earring to your bellychain
Then go down a little further man
Its alright baby ain’t no shame
Drop the top on his Mercedes Benz
So her legs can feel the wind
As he hits again and again and again Its all good yeah
because I’m bout it bout it baby I’m bout it bout it baby
This really got me to thinking have we become so obsessed with having it all that we are willing to do whatever it takes to be happy. Even if that means having multiple relationships or multiple sexual partners. Have we become so obsessed with having the perfect spouse that when we don’t find it in one person we deem it acceptable to look for it in an outside relationship? When I told her it was cheating her response was “well we aren’t married.” So is it considered cheating if you aren’t married but rather just dating someone? What are the boundaries if there are any to what is considered cheating. I mean I can understand wanting to explore your sexuality when you’re younger but as we knock on the door to our thirty’s and beyond shouldn’t we be searching for more than that now?
My thoughts on the matter? We are never going to find that perfect spouse, the perfect husband or the perfect wife. A perfect person doesn’t exist. However, we are able to find someone who is perfect for us. Your spouse should be someone who is beneficial to you in the sense that they make you a better person. If you find it necessary to search outside of your relationship then maybe you shouldn’t be in one. I personally don’t think it’s possible to have sex and not have a connection with someone which would defeat the purpose of having a “friend” that’s there just for sex right?
What do you guys think?
xoxo
Elle
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